Men in the Middle by Kori Reed




Title: Men-in-the-Middle
Conversations to Gain Momentum with Gender Equity's Silent Majority

Author: Kori REED

Publisher: Pure Ink Press, 2023

Ebook ISBN: 979-8-9875866-5-5

My rating: 5*


The media soundscape reverberates with discussions on gender issues often emphasising equity issues in the workplace. For some reason male voices seem to be silent on the conversations that need to be had.  This was one of the key observations put forward in this challenging yet engaging book by Kori Reed.

The book's structure is built around conversations with men discussing various workplace practices and situations, which being familiar to me as a male rang true.  The premise was inviting and moments into the introduction I was hooked.  I think I realised right from the outset that this should not be a quick read - the ideas and challenges shared would need time for reflection and action.  So I took a chapter at a sitting.  You can read each of the eleven chapters in 20 minutes or so but since each ends with a summary of key points and questions to consider it’s possible to spend a similar amount of time or longer in the reflective process.


And that was what happened.


In fact days after finishing the book that reflection continues, brought back to mind by a news item or reported instance of inequitable treatment.  Of course reflection is one thing but the challenge is not to remain silent and to take action.  Is writing a blog post joining the conversation?


The author is at pains to explain why men need to be part of these equity conversations.  In the United States, for example, men represent just under half of the population but occupy the majority of leadership roles in organisations; the author contends that men therefore are already in positions to make a positive difference.  She revisits this point in different chapters.  We are hooked alright and in the nicest possible way she is not letting us off that hook!  In a compelling argument and reinforcing her point about people already in positions of influence being able to help, she cites a strategy adopted by Martin Luther King.  As part of his civil rights campaign, in the background, Dr King built key relationships with people in the white “middle” who could influence change. 


The style of the book is user-friendly and the tone encouraging especially when she explores with her interlocutors male reticence in taking part in equity conversations.  I appreciated the subtle shifts in mindset; these guys really had something to say.  The author has been able to show us that there is a lot going on below the surface; in the "bummock" as she puts it, that large part of the iceberg hidden from view. 


In its later chapters the book takes aspects of an existing model for change and applies that discipline to the gender equity equation. I felt that was useful and I liked how that equation was couched in terms of mutual benefit - a win-win for organisations.


I read the book in e-format and looking back over it a moment ago I can see that I have highlighted significant portions to consider further; to memorise and to follow up.  As mentioned above an extensive reference section is provided with sources detailed for each chapter.  This is very well organised - meticulous.  I clicked on several of the links suggested and following up on her references for the Martin Luther King strategy I spent quite a while reading articles on that from the Washington Post.  All pertinent stuff.  I have also signed up for newsletters and further information from some of the sites concerned. The momentum is underway.


In conclusion, I would say that this book is a call to action.  A shout-out to men to break their silence.  It would be a powerful resource for leaders in all types of organisations seeking to have a workplace characterised and enabled by gender equity.  I imagine those with interests in personal and organisational effectiveness will gain useful insights and strategies for further development and I readily commend the book to their attention. 


It has thoroughly engaged mine. 




More:


Author's website: https://www.korireed.com/


I was grateful to receive an Advance Reader Copy (ARC) of Men in the Middle from NetGalley, where it is now archived. Here is a link for further information.

Routes and Roots: Caminos de Sefarad



Routes:
One of the things that has left a lasting impression from our recent trip to Seville was learning how for centuries Jews, Muslims and Christians lived together in peace.  The Jewish legacy can be discovered in the Caminos de Sefarad / Paths of the Sefarad - the term used by the Jewish community to refer to Spain. 

Roots:
We spent an afternoon in Seville walking the old quarter of the city tracing its multi-cultural past and there in a courtyard saw the physical expression of that living together - an orange tree and a palm tree growing from the same plot of ground. 





Routes and roots. 
 
 

Songs of a Sourdough

 


This is a much-loved book. My dad's.
The pen was his too. 
C.Tracey etched in cursive script.
Same details as mine.
Heirloom.


Public Reading - Donal Ryan

 


Back at a public library again! 

This time for a reading by author Donal Ryan.  We almost missed the event as when we applied for seats registration was already full.  A helpful staff member put us on a waiting list and sure enough some spaces became available.  We jumped at the chance to attend.

I love his writing and with the addition of his latest, the queen of dirt island, have all his books. The one he is reading from in the picture above gave him, and then his listeners, some amusement.  It was an early publication version and the cover had been presented upside down.  The sections he read though were powerful and his literary talents are assuredly the right way up.

At the library event he talked about the process of writing and the critical inputs of editors and family members. He invited questions and responded to these at length revealing in the process further insights into his literary journey.

We were delighted to hear that this current title invites a follow-up.

Thank you LibrariesNI.

Brilliant!


Check out more on the book at this link.

Pen and Ink

 


The new King Charles III, is signing all sorts of documents these days and recently had some trouble with a fountain pen.  It may have been an official or a borrowed pen but in any case on this occasion it oozed ink and he complained this happens "every stinking time!"

I love writing with my pen. I'm left-handed and over time the nib has adapted to the way I write. Fountain pens are personal to the user.  The ink in mine flows brilliantly but might not if loaned to another, say right-handed user.

Ink residues are inevitable when filling and I keep a well-blotted napkin to wipe the barrel and remove excess.  

Love the ritual of filling the pen - every inking time! 

Vote here

 


A short break in Derry/Londonderry. A vibrant city with much going on.

Everywhere we went we felt very welcome.  There was a festival taking place - apparently there's always something going on - and we did plenty of walking.

Out and about, I couldn't resist snapping this pic of a refuse bin.

Yes, it's a tidy city too.

You've got our vote and we'll be back soon.


Library reading group

 


I haven't been to a Library Reading Group before and a bit unsure of what to expect.  But I have been enjoying The Black Dress by Deborah Moggach and am looking forward to discussing it.

I saw the flyer when borrowing a couple of books from my local library and since this was a title which suggested content that I wouldn't normally go for I thought I would give it a try.

Expand my literary horizons.

There's a reading group meeting each month and I figure it's both a stimulus and discipline for staying on track with reading goals.

I'm also told there'll be a cuppa and biscuits to relax participants into the discussion.


Read more:

Here's a link to more information on The Black Dress.

A bookmarked book

 


Judged a book by its bookmark!

I had ordered this very large book on the visual strength of its giveaway bookmark, a stack of which were on the counter at my favourite bookstore.

I picked the book up today and now cannot wait to get into it.  It is three books in one I'm told and "big as it is you'll not want it to end".

Here goes then... To Paradise.


More:

Check out this link for more details about the book.

Stirrings of spring

 



A time for every purpose...

Some current readings, suggesting stirrings of spring?

Mudlarking




Title: Mudlarking
Lost and Found on the River Thames

Author: Lara Maiklem

Publisher: Bloomsbury. 2019
ISBN: 976-1-4088-8921-3

I thoroughly enjoyed this book and feel that I have learnt so much from it about the Thames and its impact on history down the centuries. I particularly liked the writing style. Each chapter, focussing on a location along the river's course, begins with a literary extract describing those who make their living on and from the Thames. The author provides historical details in a very accessible way, supplementing them with her own deductions, hypotheses and intuitions; along the way she shares with us some of her personal biography connecting that to the places she visits. She had a particular connection with her precious Greenwich where she had lived for 13 years.  She also introduces us to some of her mudlark friends who come across as a friendly supportive group of like-minded individuals.


I started reading the hardback edition and when I spotted that it was also available in audio format I didn't think twice before downloading the spoken version which I was able to play while travelling.  That too was a treat. It was beautifully read by the author.  BBC Radio 4 had also broadcast it in its series "Book of the Week" albeit in an abridged form.

I was sorry that the book has come to an end but it's one that just as a true mudlark returns to their favourite spots along the river that I will certainly read again.  Walking beside a river will never be the same again; this book has awakened my inner mudlark and I'm ready to get busy exploring.


4*

Farewell Joan Didion

 


The writer and social commentator, Joan Didion has left us for good on 23 December 2021. It is perhaps fitting that not long before Christmas she goes Slouching Towards Bethlehem, the title of her first work of non-fiction.

The Year of Magical Thinking is an astonishing work - remarkable insights into bereavement.


December Stories by Ian Sansom



I have thoroughly enjoyed this collection of short stories for December by Ian Sansom. My intention was to read just one story a day for the month; to get me in the mood for Christmas. The stories however are so captivating that I found myself reading on and so finished them after about a week.

They instil a mix of emotions: sympathy, humour, sadness and vulnerability. Despite the quick read some of these vignettes have found their sticking place and the simple everyday situations he writes about resonate with personal memories of feelings, thoughts and actions. So although ostensibly these accounts relate to the end of year festive season they also speak to the human situation and the business of getting on with life. They therefore would be immensely readable in other months of the year.

I have to mention one story in particular, Down By The River for 23 December.  It's one of the longer pieces in the volume and oddly when I started reading it I had recently just watched two films: It's A Wonderful Life  (1946) and The Bishop's Wife (1947) both of which feature angels interacting with troubled humans. In Down By The River, we meet a brilliantly constructed pot-bellied foul-mouthed angel, so unlike the models depicted in the films. I enjoyed that story very much.

Anyway to cut a short story even shorter, the book is finished but there remains the possibility of a re-read of the first volume in similar vein - December Stories 1.

Do yourself a favour and get either, better still both, of these books, then return to them annually in December or any other time of year.

More
December Stories 2 by Ian Sansom
Published by No Alibis Press
November 2021
ISBN. 978-1-838108-13-7

The Inseparables by Simone de Beauvoir





The Inseparables: The newly discovered novel 

Simone de Beauvoir - Author
Translated by Lauren Elkin
Introduction by Deborah Levy  
Afterword by Sylvie le Bon de Beauvoir  


Publisher Random House UK,Vintage  
Publication 2 September 2021  
ISBN: 978-1784877002 



“ They called us the inseparables” 


Lasting friendships that were formed in early childhood are a fascination for me.  What is it that brings individuals together, keeps them together and makes them inseparableAnd for me, as an avid Francophile, add to that the “mystery” of why a novel by French writer Simone de Beauvoir should come to light years after the celebrated author’s death then I’m hooked. 


Format 


I had joined the member community at NetGalley, requested and was sent a pre-publication copy of The InseparablesLong time aware of, but new to reading de Beauvoir, I was grateful for the introduction by Deborah Levy who rightly pointed out that her foreword contained spoilersI decided to stay with that however as it helped provide context and has prompted me to read some of de Beauvoir’s other works. Then on to the novel itself, translated from the French by Lauren Elkin, only confirming the intention to read moreThe text was accompanied by helpful footnotes explaining this or that term or historical background.  And what about that mysteryThe afterword, written by Sylvie Le Bon de Beauvoir, explains how the work was found among de Beauvoir’s papers and came to publication. The afterword includes photographs of the people aliased in the book and some facsimiles of the original handwritten draft.  

So in this small volume we get the story, the literary legacy and social context of the workThat impressed me and I liked it very much. 


Plot 


The book recounts the story of two young women, Sylvie and Andrée, who meet in primary school at a very young ageWe learn from the opening dedication For Zaza that the story was inspired by the relationship between the young Simone in whose name Sylvie speaks and Elisabeth ‘Zaza’ Lacoin represented by Andrée.  The two become friends and rail against the prevailing orthodoxies of the time; they discuss God, religion, philosophy and then ultimately face a final reckoning. 


Language 


I was captivated by the language in the book. Yes there were all those discussions but they were essential to a sense of movement in the text; a dramatic tension drawing us to an anticipated but nonetheless abrupt conclusion that still leaves a sense of inseparability. 

Looking back over the text, there are several places where I have highlighted phrases and sections that stopped me short and made me thinkI love it when a book does thatFor example in describing one of the adults, Sylvie/Simone writes “His silky hair and Christian virtue feminised him and lowered him in my estimation.” That from a central figure in FeminismAnd from the socially engaged woman describing their respective freedoms, Sylvie writes that she ‘had often envied Andrée her independence, but suddenly she seemed much less free than I was’.  A sense of foreboding comes in a section where there is a description of a sculpted wooden clock, ‘which held...all the darkness of time’Foreboding reprised when ‘Andrée placed the violin in its little coffin’ after practising her music during which,’she seemed to be listening prayerfully to the voice of the instrument on her shoulder’.  There are many such examples, skilfully inserted throughout the text.  

 

One for the shelves? 


DefinitelyI am delighted to have read the ebook sent by the publisher through NetGalley but this a novel I would also like to have on my bookshelves so I have ordered a physical copy and will certainly reread.  

 

Rating 

4*